Longest day

I'm now on my way back from counselling!!! It was our last ever session #sad Rev Steve has imparted so much in our lives and I'm so grateful to him for his wise counsel. Without the weding counseling I would be less submissive, more demanding etc.

I know you Independent women are thinking ...WHAT'S WRONG WITH THAT? But in order for a marriage to work there needs to be one CEO but that isn't stopping us from being directors! So I'm gonna know my place lol or he will probably end up making me...but either way I will be in my place :-)

35 days to go!!!!!!!!

I bought the lace maid material today...yay! Big shout out to Helen and Lola. I couldn't have done it without them!

I also met some of Princes family members and they were amazing! I'm happy that I'm joining their family!

Life is good. I am blessed beyond measure. One thing I know for sure is: Never be afraid to say the things you want in life out loud! God rewards faith and boldness! When I said I would get married in August 2013 3 years ago...people laughed. 

Prince and I will be millionaires by 2018. #laugh

Think like an African, Act like a British

My newest book idea...yay!!! I've been thinking that maybe when this blog is done, I can spend some time each day trying to follow up with my book ideas...

I'm going to start by exploring the stereotypes of both Aficans and British People, then will lead in to how to use both to your advantage:

Guess which is which!!!

They are uneducated.
They’re all in tribes.
They hunt lions.
They are great runners because they are always running during hunts.
They all look the same.


They are all extremely polite (when you are around)
They are Snobs
They love to talk about the weather
They have an alcoholic culture
They are well educated

Delegation is the best policy

I've delegated and I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders - yay!!! Before I was lookin like this:

Now, I feel like this:

Delegation has allowed me to think about other details which are more pressing...it's deep coz when I finish work, I go and jam at the gym with Prince and by the time I get home...just want to sleep! Therefore, not much time for planning and I feel guilty when I lay my head on my soft  pillows and start dreaming about my fantabulous future.

Tomorrow I will be blogging about my new book idea...Think like an African, Act like a British

38 days...

I've been homeless for the past 2 days thats why my blogs have been a bit anorexic...I considered a few options to get me out of my predicament:

Today, I nearly had a panic attack...it's just going to fast! There is so much that needs to be done...most people are extremely unhelpful and the others are indifferent.I called my cousin today to ask what song she thinks I should walk down the aisle to...she replied, "African Queen" . REALLY????!!!!! Who in this world has ever walked down the aisle with their dad to African Queen!!!! She probably just wanted to sabotage my wedding!!!! And I guess she would want my flower girls and page boys to walk to:

My other cousin who is already a size 8, decided to tell me that she has bought some diet pills!!!! Are you being serious??? Why is she trying to take the piss out of my life!!!!!!!!!!!! Like I didn't feel bad enough already...now she gonna me looking like a size 0 and I'm gonna be looking like a mug, great!!!

This picture has no relevance...just made me crack up!!! My last complaint of today is my table plan!!! Africans hate to rsvp and it's actually merking my life!!! Coz I actually have to remember every "aunty" and "uncle" I have because they refuse to RSVP because I should know they are coming!!!! Lovely...

If you are reading this, you are invited and you haven't RSVP'd just know you will be sitting on a table with randoms #thatisall

...

Helen is sorting out the lacemaids...yay!!! Progress...

Crap

40 days left

Guess hu's bk #part 2

It went fully inn..I am actually shocked by how much I have learnt from these sessions. I have to admit I had no idea that marriage was such a tricky situation. Two people tied by law under God and in front of bareeee witnesses..claiming that you love eachother and want to be together forever...if it flops ou have to pay bare money for a divorce, God won't be too hapz and all those people who were there will think u were chatting crap #pressure

So marriage counselling has taught us ways to overcome the pressures that come with marriage; but it is up to us to follow through with it. Being good at marriage is like being a good driver, you study for the theory (counselling), use it to help pass your practical (1st months of marriage) then you pick up bad habits (rest of marriage)... But what I really want to do is to be one of those drivers that still use 2 hands, use all their mirrors and put up their handbreak at the traffic light 5 years after they've passed and pretty much for the rest of their lives.

Half of the marriage counselling today was abou things that can go wrong at weddings and omd did it scare me!!! Like lack of reserved seats for important people and caterers, decorators, dj's etc. disappointingt couples on the day...Some of the stories were actually peak so I'm going into planning overload this week! It's like 5 weeks 5 days and a couple of minutes till my wedding day...need to get stuff sorted asap. Therefore, if you call me and I'm talking about is wedding planning...don't get offended just get off my line coz thats about all that is occupying my brain apart from God, my family, my Prince and carbs. So yh, jam your hype and don't call if you don't want to hear about any of those things...And hopefully:

Then I can have the day I've always dreamed of:

6 weeks till the wedding.............

Sorted out quite a few things for the wedding today...yay!!! However, I broke my middle nail on my right finger and it hurts sooooooo bad!!!!!!!!!!! I actually cried it was butters..not lady like cryintg but screaming in agony crying...Prince was standing there like, awww babes...he doesn't know what to do with himself when I cry...he's not the sensitive type. (at all!!!!)

I spent the whole day watching Game of Thrones...Season 3 is way too intense!!!!!!!! I'm letting this blog slip but tomorrow back on it!!!!!!!

Dieting is soooo peak!

Basically I'm on some next crazy diet which involves me eating grapefruit everyday and omd it is the worst fruit eva!!!!!!!!!!!!

Everyone thinks I haven't got any problems coz I'm marrying a personal trainer!!! Mate, it's harder to take advice about your body when it's coming from your partner...that's just the way it is..

So basically I'm in a peak situation and I only have 43 days to try to get as close to my ideal body as possible...

44 days...

Today was a mixed one..I went back in to work today because I'm feeling a bit better...only stayed in the office for an hour than had to head off to an agency for some marketing stuff...which is always cool. After work I went to meet Prince at the gym coz today is the first day that he will be staying at our apartment!!!

I miss him sooo much!!!!!!!!!!! Why is my life soooooooo deeeeeeeeeeeeeep???

He's gonna be home alone, allow it!!!

Long distance relationships are not the 1 at all!!! It makes me sad that he's an hour away...he's the blood of my look #lol (if you don't watch Game of thrones you won't understand)

Love u guys, this past is kinda short coz I'm probs gonna cry myself to sleep...

45 days to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

45 days to go and I'm still 100% sure and so in love with Prince, that it no longer makes sense!!! Somebody pinch me!!! I feel like it's all a dream. When I look back and think about all the people who doubted us, it makes me laugh.

So much stuff needs to get sorted...45 days seems long but it's actually going to fly by...why is my life so peak??? I went to the venue today to sort out the fine details and the guy was turning me into a bridezilla...why is it so hard for people to understand simple instructions? I'm not a diva, not a perfectionist, just want things done properly...I only plan to get married 3 times...( To the same guy...calm down)

I don't know what it is about 45 but it made the wedding seem really close so I decided to start a new diet. It's really strict so I'm TRYING to stick to it as much as possible but I feel so deprived and depressed...but as you know from previous blogs, it's the only true way to lose weight!

On a serious level tho, the lady below:

She lost nearly double my weight and I'm just trying to lose 1.5 stone and it's an issue??? The weight does not want to shift!!! I know what you're thinking..."you're marrying a personal trainer!" Well done einstein! It's still hard coz I love food way too much! Our relationship has never had ups and downs...I love food to the  fullest...even though deep down I want to be able to upload a pic like this:

Me and food are going to have to go on a break coz that wedding dress doesn't care if I'm a princess or not...if I don't fit, I don't fit...#simple

Not feeling too good..

I feel very weak, my throat kills and I've got a serious headache. This is longing out my life I have so much to do at work and in my personal life...ain't nobody got time for that!!! So my basic plan is to take pain killers, sleep and drink lots of water...till I get better.

I'm drained. I'm tired. I'm fed up.

God is my strength so I'll be fine.

Bridal Shower Pt 3

After the Bridal Shower games..I was showered with gifts and they gave me lots of advice which I plan to follow:

1. Let God be the centre of your marriage

2. Always communicate and be open and honest with each other

3. Look good, smell good and cook good

It was really lovely and I had a great time...the presents gave me to much jokes!!! There were some presents which were very unexpected - shout out to Ms Helen...when I opened her present, I actually couldn't stop laughing...

Jessicas present killed it tho...she got a fireman to come and check the fire alarm...gotta love that chick!!!

My cousin Amie had one aim when she came and that was to make sure I had a night which I couldn't remember...lol!!! She went fully in and she made sure her presence was felt! She's my older cousin...25 happily married with 2 kids...and she's still got it!!!!!!!!! Love her to the fullest....

I don't have many pictures on my phone coz don't want any evidence but use your imagination...it was epic!

Jessica was in charge of the evening bridal shower and she hit the nail on the head...still recovering, but it was worth it...

Can't wait for the hen night abroad!!! #legoooooooooooooooooooo

lol would love to say this was the case...but some people got excited.....

Bridal Shower Pt 2.

The day was fully on point... I'm so thankful for my friends and family for making it the special day that it was...

It started with me waking up bare early coz I was soooo excited, I face timed Jessica and text Makda. I then received a call from Arnya saying that she was popping over. She rode up in a car which I looked alot like this:

After re-assessing my life as to why I don't drive a car like this...I decided to go and visit Priya sp she could assist me in getting ready! She is a marriage make up artist in the making and this was her end result:

After that I went to Renee's house to get changed and straighten my hair...I had 3 outfits to pick from but I think I made the right choice:

I then made my way to my house where Makda, Jessica, Marilyn, Michelle and Vee were decorating and setting up. I had to make a couple of stops on the way - pick up Yvonne, Sabrina and some bottles of water. These people had from 11 in the morning to set up but I got there at 3 and they still were not ready for me to come in...However, when I walked in and saw the posters it put a huge smile on my face:

They got me a chocolate fountain too!!!!!!!!! So on point!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I love them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

We then played games organised by the host Ms Makda Sahelu. One of the best games was the toilet roll wedding dress game:

They had 5 minutes to make a beautiful wedding dress - Jessica's team dress was too butters..I tried to upload but it nearly cracked my screen...









Will have to continue this tomorrow COZ a lot went down...but the main thing I want to do is thank Makda for organising the Bridal shower and to Jessica and Marilyn for  supporting her. I appreciate everything you guys did and I know I was not easy to deal with...Love ya x

Bridal shower

U am so finished 

Day before my bridal shower...

My brother stole my phone tonight so I can't communicate with the outside world...it's a weird one coz I kinda want it back but I kinda like my freedom...

Unluckily for me...some of the people who wanted to contact me, have my mums number...KMT! 

Today, I managed to get my dress, yay! So hopefully will be looking fully on point tomorrow!

My mums birthday today, she turned 45. I love her so much and I'm happy that she had a good day. The whole family is jamming at my yard watching a movie, eating pizza and generally a ing a good time #life

Fever

Was in bed for most of the day coz of my  fever...

Bridezilla moments...

Cannot wait for Saturday!!!

Anticipation is killing me...

Longest day.

So my back hurts, I feel a fever coming on and I am still not home!!! Why I hear you ask???? Coz I came to East Street to get my hair done and yup I'm still waiting...is this my life?????? 

I have been here since half 6, it's now half 10!!!! Ah we'll, it's cheap and hopefully it will turn out good

HOWEVER, this lady who works here is scaring the crap out of me: 

Disclaimer: if you know her, no offence

She decided to glue random bits of my hair together,God help me!!!

BFF

Yh yh, I flopped yesterday but to be fair it was a traumatic day...

1. I didn't see Prince all day (This has happened less than 5 times since we got together)

2. Had an epic bridezilla moment

3. The 1st 2 things on this list got to  me so much that I had a tonk headache and had to sleep

The funny thing is I thought yesterday was bad, today was worse!

1. I didn't see Prince again due to some dodgy timing

2. Priya merked my life

3. The 1st 2 things on this list got to me so much that I have a tonk headache and need to sleep

But this blog is quite near the top of my priority list so I'm going to tackle this first.

Priya is actually an amazing person, I shared things with her I wouldn't usually share and I'm so grateful to have a friend like her...If you are coming to the wedding, you'll spot her quite easily she's my only Indian bridesmaid! She waxed me again and gave me invaluable advise about how to look after my body and supplied with me samples...I'm going to be looking super good for my husband because of her...yay!

Things see to be falling in place for Saturday, going to get my hair done tomorrow with Renee...my Jamaican homie that  I've been friends with for over 15 years...craaaaap...we getting old! Renee and I don't have hour long conversations everyday or even every week, in fact sometimes we don't talk for months but we are there for each other when it matters and that is true friendship.

Prince is my newest BFF but I'm going to make a real effort to make sure I still make time for my friends when married coz I love them and they love me:

Combined post

TI wasn't able to blog properly yesterday coz didn't get back till really late but I thought I would still update you guys on how my day went... I went to church and had a fantastic time, Prince was on time, my brother played the keyboard really well and I taught the children at Sunday school coz both of their teachers were absent. It was actually really cool, kids intrigue me...I want to foster but Prince won't let me. Don't want my own kids yet...want a kid that is pretty much grown that I can look after..we would have so much fun!

Anyways, at church I realised that my mum has been telling people the wrong time for my bridal shower!!! I don't understand where the breakdown in communication was but if I hadn't overheard her conversation, it could have been an epic fail! I'm excited though, it's going to be a range of people who all mysteriously care about me or just want to attend a bridal shower...either way I'm excited and a bit suprised at how quickly it's come round...it means the wedding is also round the corner..which sends me into a panic attack...

TBC again!!!!!! So tired!!!!!!!!

55 days to go!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Blogging everyday is not easy...proud of myself for not throwing in the towel. Today is going to follow my normal sunday routine..I got a date with God in the morning, an argument with Prince in the afternoon and marriage counselling in the evening. Hopefully, the afternoon won't go according to plan coz if anyone knows me, they know how much I hate to argue. It really hurts me inside so I'm always first to apologise. #lol 

I'm writing this in the morning coz I know I'm getting back late... Marriage counselling is gonna go fully in, we are having our 1st one to one with the counsellor. Yay!!! We've decided to say united, #Team PH 

Emotional rollercoaster

Woke up this morning and decided to call my cuz Marilyn with the purpose of convincing her to come with me to look for material for my lace maids...but then we ended up talking about lots of other random things including how married life was going to change me and the new apartment we put a deposit on!!! Yup, thats right, I'm no longer homeless...even tho...

So anyway, somewhere down the line I forgot my intention to go material shopping and I received a call from Priya my first eva best friend and decided to go with her to get my eyebrows and other random things done to my face. It was the worst experience eva and it made me question whether my pain tolerance is high enough for child birth... I mean why would anyone put themselves through that much pain, just to have perfectly shaped eyebrows??? So yeah they look choong but it hurt like crazy and to cut a long story short..I started crying like a little baby in the shop...like proper bawling!!! The lady probably thought I was crying coz she had done my eyebrows wrong and in hindsight I should probably have milked that and walked out without paying... Priya felt really awkward coz it was probs the most embarassing thing she had ever witnessed, she obviously doesn't hang around with me enough...It was more awkward than the pic below...

I decided to walk home from the town centre, which amazingly only took 30 minutes as I was walking at a militant pace. Needed to burn off calories before my weigh in..Last week I lost 4lbs so I was expecting great things but this week I only lost 1lb...kmt! Why can't I ever be dedicated to a diet/ work out programme...serious commitment issues! (Except for when it comes to Prince #lol)

Bridal shower is exactly a week from today. I am expecting great things. Makda is running the show and after living with her for 3 years, I know she's gonna make sure everything goes according to plan. She is literally like a robot, there is no space for error...it's gonna be interesting. I hope she does an ethiopian dance for me, that will make the day unbeatable. I remember the first time I learnt how to do an ethiopian move, I was so excited, I practically did it at every party.

Speaking of parties, haven't been to one in ages, nobody invites me anywhere...But thats ok coz Prince and I have more fun in one weekend than most kids have during their whole summer holiday coz thats how we roll. We went to Harvesters today to celebrate not being homeless and one of our anniversaries..not gonna tell you how long we been together coz ppl who have too nuch time on their hands will try and do some random calculations...allow it blud! Anyway we had an amazing time and I laughed so much coz he's actually so random and it's perfect coz I am too...

Guess who's back???

*No offence*

Okie, like JME would say, it's time to get serious!!! My last couple of blogs have been flops coz tbh time goes so fast these days..by the time I get home, feed the Prince, it's bed time. Today, I have decided to make time out of my ridiculous schedule to update you on this mess I call a life.

I still haven't watched the Game of Thrones episode that everyone was hyping about because:

1. I'm a cocuple of episodes behind

2. I never have any time

3. I don't rate my life

I know people who never hype about anything, but when this episode dropped, they got more hype than ravers when POW comes on in a rave. So, I'm pretty sure the episode is going to be fully on point!

Still haven't found any where to live but have a couple of viewings lined up...we're going to be living somewhere in East London. My mum is not too pleased and has said she is NEVER going to visit us unless we live max. 30 minutes away. But, she always says things of that nature so I'm not taking her too seriously...

However, if you know me, you'll know I always have a back up plan! I checked travel lodge and staying there for a whole month, will come up to the same as staying in a decent apartment...See where I'm going? All bills included...maids cleaning the room...room service!!!

Another thing I am yet to do...buy material for my lacemaids! I have been completely ignoring their existence but I have given myself a deadline to get it sorted! Wth is wrong with me! Either my girls are amazingly patient or they don't really care or they don't have money to spend on material. Actually, it could be a combination of the reasons above or even all 3. I have decided not to loose any friends over this wedding, just demote people to spectators. The amount of ridiculous excuses I've heard from people who are basically just flops is incredible. I just pretend like what they said is perfectly understandable then laugh about it with Jessica and Prince. It's not 2 faced, it's keeping the peace...ok, maybe it's a little 2 faced but if you were not such a flop, it wouldn't happen. Yup, I'm talking about you. If you ask me, if this is about you and I deny it...it's still about you. KMT!

I did so well on my exercise and dieting last week! But this week I actually haven't been bothered...I've been starving myself for half of the day, then eating like a mad person for half of the day. So basically I'm probably eating the right amount of calories butr not in a smart way so my body might just store up the food as fat etc etc.Going zumba tonight to make myself feel better, then will try and do a couple of boxing vids before I go sleep, so as Tiffany Rothe says, " I can be a boxer babe"!

 I also bought some new gym clothes coz when I look better, I feel better. "You must not feel good very often!", is probably what my sister who doesn't like to be named is saying in her head right now!!! Bite me!!!!!!!!!

Jessica my amazing Maid of Honour, has sorted out my make up artist and pretty much everything else coz like I said previously she's amazing. I dedicate my come back blog to her coz I appreciate the crap out of her for keeping me sane and organised...

Lol, funny thing is..she doesn't even really care about the title and I know for a fact that with or without the title she would still do everything that she's doing now coz love looks past bridezilla behaviour #truestories

Kmt

I've started neglecting this blog...gonna take it more seriously from tomorrow. Funny highlight of the day: I pretended I was going to attack Prince and he ran into the door. (Just in case you were wondering why he has a black eye)

Giving notice...

Today we went to give notice to the registrar, it was jokes! It was like a mini interrogation. They wanted to know if I actually knew Prince and vice versa. They even spoke to us separately to make sure our answers were legit.

Only exercise I managed to do was the plank this morning...

tomorrow I'm going to have to go fully in!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Or I won't reach my target for this week...

Prince and I did a lot of planning today and I feel much better about the next couple of months. #progress

xoxo

04.30

I woke up at half 4 today coz Prince was opening the gym and I had to set up for an event..I was sooooooooooooooooo tired, felt like my life just didn't make any sense! Really??????????? Is my life that deep??????????

We got to the gym just before 6 so I decided to train for an hour. I went to the studio, put on my workout routine on my iPad and started working out! Lol, just realised I haven't told you guys about Princes new hair cut....he's trying out the bald look. It's different. So anyway, I saw his head at the door as she forced his way through my barriers. He looked at me lovingly and said, stop the nonsense that you are doing and get yourself on a treadmill! To be fair, the video that I was doing made me look like I was auditioning to be a video girl, but it really does work the muscles and is fun at the same time. 

I made an executive decision to do the videos for only 20 minutes and jumped on the cross trainer. Now, I have to stress, at that time in the morning my energy levels were pretty low so I needed something to give me a boost! I tried to watch some Tv on my machine to distract me from the pain but it wasn't working....then I remembered I had made a workout playlist so I went to grab my headphones. 

1st song was, Act a fool - Ludacris. Erm, all I can say is that song is potentially the best workout song ever!!!! Like ever!!! It was like that turbo button in the fast and furious cars had been pushed inside me, I was going so fast I felt sorry for the machine, it as shaking at an alarming rate. The woman who was training next to me, had to get off her machine coz next to me she looked like she wasn't putting any effort into it. After that song the pace was built and I had a great time! The last song I played was Single ladies, and I concentrated on the words for the 1st time in my life. O how time flies, I remember listening to that song in uni and now I'm this weird grown up who has to go to work and plan a wedding. #long

To cut a long story short, my body is now in so much pain that it hurts to sneeze, laugh and pretty much breathe. I'm being showered with compliments about my new body from people who haven't seen me in a while. Just makes me think, I must have got pretty big, if they think this size is good! Or maybe it's because Prince is a personal trainer and can guess my body fat by just looking at me. Or maybe, it's because they want me to stop workimg out so I can look big on my big day, HATERS!!!! I will have my #wedding-body #honeymoon-body #beach-body no matter what!!!!!

Exactly 2 months 2 go!!!!!!!

Omg!!!!!!!! It is actually coming "thick and fast" as Prince would say. I don't even know what to say... Even though it feels like I've known Prince for ages, it still feels so new! You know that feeling when you get new clothes, you wear it and you walk down the street like a super model...I still feel that way when I walk with Prince down the road, which to be fair never happens coz we drive everywhere, coz we lazy!

Anyways, 2 months is here and I still don't feel like we are anywhere near ready! (For the wedding, not marriage) I keep hearing of other peoples weddings and how amazing they are and I just want mine to be amazing too!!! But at the same time, we are not going to borrow any money for this wedding and we've only had 7 months to prepare so when I put things into perspective, it will def be decent! 

Finding somewhere to live has been jokes! No luck yet, we may have to live in a shelter or something! Love conquers all. #lol Money will never dictate whether we are happy or not! The reason why we ain't found somewhere has nothing to do with money...Prince is fussy!!!!! He doesn't like ground floor, open plan or gardens!!! No search engine can handle his demands!

As is life. 2 months 2 go. Still can't wait 2 marry my Prince.

Lol!!!!!!!?!??!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm writing this post on my iPad and when I scrolled through my pics for 1 of Prince, I genuinely thought this was him:

This is my baby:

Worst day ever...like ever

It was so bad, I actually don't even want to talk about it.

Drained - MK Edition

All these last minute blogs are getting on my nerves...need to start making more time for it during the day. Today, I kinda have an excuse because I spent the morning working out, eating small portions, house hunting and napping. After this, Prince came to pick me up to go to a wedding.

The wedding was so fabulous it made me realise how far I am from the things I have to do fore my own wedding. That sentence probably didn't make any sense, but you get what I mean! A lot has to be done! Everything was so on point from the decorations to the dress to the food...Why is MY life so deeeeep???

63 days to the wedding...forget that....63 days till I'm married....Jessica advised me to get married friends because I'm not going to be fun to hang around with anymore...